The Art of Persuasion

Proverbs 15:1 states: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Unfortunately, many leaders ignore these words and never learn the art of persuasion. Instead, they lean into their power and try to lead through coercion and intimidation. The results are predictable. Employees may give lip service, but inside they have little respect for the abrasive leader.

Like sandpaper, a harsh leader will “wear down” his leaders and eventually wear out his welcome.

Face it, you are never persuasive when you are abrasive!

Perhaps this would be a good time for you to evaluate your communication style? Have you been harsh with those you work with? Have you attempted to coax your son or daughter to behave in a certain way? Are you trying to “fix” your spouse through strong criticism?

If so, it is time for a more gentle approach. Nobody likes a person who comes across with too much grit.

Remember, you are never persuasive when you're abrasive!



Who is the most positive person you know?



repost from 6.29.12

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11 years ago

Thank you Randy. Too many times I think I don't come across right. I tend to come off harsh with my family. I tell my kids it isn't so much what you say as to how you say it. It is time I took my own advice huh...
God Bless,


11 years ago

Thanks Jason


11 years ago

I watched a video of some kids being interviewed the other day and one student said, "I have always been told that "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me," but that is completely not true." He went on to say how damaging comments by teachers and coaches have been for him. This is both sad and sobering food for thought.
As far as positive people I know - you're right up there at the top of my list.


11 years ago

Thanks Susan! Glad we have educators like you leading the "positive" charge for the next generation. Have a great 4th with your family.


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